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A group of rapists in
prison were interviewed on what they look for in a potential victim and here
are some interesting facts:
1) The first thing men look for in a
potential victim is hairstyle. They are most likely to go after a woman with
a ponytail, bun, braid or other hairstyle that can easily be grabbed. They
are also likely to go after a woman with long hair. Women with short hair are
not common targets.
2) The second thing men look for is clothing. They
will look for women who's clothing is easy to remove quickly. Many of them
carry scissors around specifically to cut clothing.
3) They also look
for women on their cell phone, searching through their purse or doing other
activities while walking because they are off guard and can be easily
overpowered.
4) Men are most likely to attack & rape in the early
morning between
5:00a.m. and 8:30a.m.
5) The number one place women are abducted
from/attacked is grocery store parking lots. Number two is office parking
lots/garages. Number three is public restrooms
6) The thing about
these men is that they are looking to grab a woman and quickly move her to
another location where they don't have to worry about getting
caught.
7) Only 2% said they carried weapons because rape carries a 3-5
year sentence but rape with a weapon is 15-20 years.
8) If you put up
any kind of a fight at all, they get discouraged because it only takes a
minute or two for them to realize that going after you isn't worth it because
it will be time-consuming.
9) These men said they would not pick on women
who have umbrellas, or other similar objects that can be used from a
distance, in their hands. Keys are not a deterrent because you have to get
really close to the attacker to use them as a weapon. So, the idea is to
convince these guys you're not worth it.
10) Several defense
mechanisms he taught us are: If someone is following behind you on a street
or in a garage or with you in an elevator or stairwell, look them in the face
and ask them a question, like what time is it, or make general small talk: "I
can't believe it is so cold out here", "we're in for a bad winter." Now
you've seen their face and could identify them in a line-up; you lose appeal
as a target.
11) If someone is coming toward you, hold out your hands in
front of you and yell STOP! or STAY BACK! Most of the rapists this man talked
to said they'd leave a woman alone if she yelled or showed that she would not
be afraid to fight back. Again, they are looking for an EASY
target.
12) If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a huge
advocate of it and carries it with him wherever he goes), yell I HAVE PEPPER
SPRAY and holding it out will be a deterrent.
13) If someone grabs
you, you can't beat them with strength but you can by outsmarting them. If
you are grabbed around the waist from behind, pinch the attacker either under
the arm (between the elbow and armpit) OR in the upper inner thigh VERY VERY
HARD. One woman in a class this guy taught told him she used the underarm
pinch on a guy who was trying to date rape her and was so upset she broke
through the skin and tore out muscle strands - the guy needed stitches. Try
pinching yourself in those places as hard as you can stand it; it
hurts.
14) After the initial hit, always GO for the GROIN. I know from a particularly unfortunate experience that if you slap a guy's parts it
is extremely painful. You might think that you'll anger the guy and make
him want to hurt you more, but the thing these rapists told our instructor
is that they want a woman who will not cause a lot of trouble. Start
causing trouble and he's out of there.
15) When the guy puts his hands
up to you, grab his first two fingers and bend them back as far as possible
with as much pressure pushing down on them as possible! The instructor did it
to me without using much pressure, and I ended up on my knees and both
knuckles cracked audibly.
16) Of course the things we always hear still
apply. Always be aware of your surroundings, take someone with you if you can
and if you see any odd behavior, don't dismiss it, go with your
instincts!!! You may feel a little silly
at the time, but you'd feel much worse if the guy really was
trouble.
1. Tip from Tae Kwon Do: The elbow is the strongest point on
your body. If you are close enough to use it, do!
17) Learned
this from a tourist guide in New Orleans. If a robber asks for your wallet
and/or purse, DO NOT HAND IT TO HIM. Toss it away from you....chances are
that he is more interested in your wallet and/or purse than you, and he will
go for the wallet/purse. RUN LIKE MAD IN THE OTHER DIRECTION!
18)
If you are ever thrown into the trunk of a car, kick out the back tail lights
and stick your arm out the hole and start waving like crazy. The driver won't
see you, but everybody else will. This has saved lives.
19) Women
have a tendency to get into their cars after shopping, eating, working, etc.,
and just sit (doing their checkbook, or making a list, etc.). DON'T DO THIS!
The predator will be watching you, and this is the perfect opportunity for
him to get in on the passenger side, put a gun to your head, and tell you
where to go. AS SOON AS YOU GET INTO YOUR CAR, LOCK THE DOORS AND LEAVE.
a) If someone is in the car with a
gun to your head DO NOT DRIVE OFF, repeat: DO NOT DRIVE OFF! Instead
gun the engine and speed into anything, wrecking the car. Your Air Bag will
save you. If the person is in the back seat they will get the worst of it. As
soon as the car crashes bail out and run. It is better than having them find
your body in a remote location.
20) A few notes about getting into your
car in a parking lot, or parking garage:
a) Be aware: look around you, look
into your car, at the passenger side floor, and in the back seat.
b) If you
are parked next to a big van, enter your car from the passenger door. Most
serial killers attack their victims by pulling them into their vans while the
women are attempting to get into their cars.
c) Look at the car parked on
the driver's side of your vehicle, and the passenger side. If a male
is sitting alone in the seat nearest your car, you may want to walk
back into the mall, or work, and get a guard/policeman to walk you back
out.
21) ALWAYS take the elevator instead of the stairs. (Stairwells
are horrible places to be alone and the perfect crime spot. This is
especially true at NIGHT!)
22) If the predator has a gun and you are
not under his control, ALWAYS RUN! The predator will only hit you (a running
target) 4 in 100 times; and even then, it most likely WILL NOT be a vital
organ. RUN, preferably in a zigzag pattern!
23) As women, we are
always trying to be sympathetic: STOP. It may get you raped, or killed. Ted
Bundy, the serial killer, was a good-looking, well educated man, who ALWAYS
played on the sympathies of unsuspecting women. He walked with a cane, or a
limp, and often asked "for help" into his vehicle or with his vehicle, which
is when he abducted his next victim.
24) Another Safety Point: Someone
just told me that her friend heard a crying baby on her porch one night and
she called the police because it was late and she thought it was weird. The
police told her "Whatever you do, DO NOT open the door."
The lady then
said that it sounded like the baby had crawled near a window, and she was
worried that it would crawl to the street and get run over. The policeman
said, "We already have a unit on the way, whatever you do, DO NOT open
the door." He told her that they think a serial killer has a baby's cry
recorded and uses it to coax women out of their homes thinking that someone
dropped off a baby. Several calls have been made to the police by women
saying that they hear baby's cries outside their doors when they're home
alone at night. |